I found it fascinating to learn that the molecules that form cells seek feedback from their environment. That only by getting feedback from markers in an environment does an atomic structure “know” or sense that a change has taken place. The second president of the United States, John Adams, intuitively stated:
“A desire to be observed, esteemed, praised, beloved, and admired by his fellows is one of the earliest as well as one of the keenest dispositions of man.”
The outpouring of acknowledgement and support I received. before and after my one of posts became a WP Editors’ Pick and was featured on Freshly Pressed (WordPress – you rock), was incredible. It has been life changing. I’ve learned that I am not alone. I can’t thank you all enough for taking the time to read, to like, to follow, and to comment with your whole heart. Again,
That experience will stay with me for the rest of my life. I’m sure of it. The acknowledgement and support were something I really needed during this challenging season of my life. Sometimes change can plunge you into a dark abyss where you feel there’s no escape, and sometimes it can cause you to soar to heights you never dreamed possible, and when you least expect it.
Right now I am soaring.
To express gratitude to you, dear readers and friends, I’d like to share more scintillating gems of wisdom from Brené Brown. For those of you who may not be familiar with her, I’ll share a little background. Dr. Brown is a writer, researcher, and educator. She is a member of the research faculty at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work where she has spent the past ten years studying connection – specifically authenticity, belonging, and shame, and the effect these powerful emotions have on the way we live, love, parent, work and build relationships.
Time to examine the gems courtesy of Good Reads.
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”
“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.”
“To love someone fiercely, to believe in something with your whole heart, to celebrate a fleeting moment in time, to fully engage in a life that doesn’t come with guarantees – these are risks that involve vulnerability and often pain. But, I’m learning that recognizing and leaning into the discomfort of vulnerability teaches us how to live with joy, gratitude and grace.”
“Shame works like the zoom lens on a camera. When we are feeling shame, the camera is zoomed in tight and all we see is our flawed selves, alone and struggling.”
“Until we can receive with an open heart, we’re never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help.”
“Here’s what is truly at the heart of wholeheartedness:
Worthy now, not if, not when, we’re worthy of love and belonging now. Right this minute. As is.”
“One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on “going it alone.” Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves. It’s as if we’ve divided the world into “those who offer help” and “those who need help.” The truth is that we are both.”
“Even to me the issue of “stay small, sweet, quiet, and modest” sounds like an outdated problem, but the truth is that women still run into those demands whenever we find and use our voices.”
“Compassion is not a virtue — it is a commitment. It’s not something we have or don’t have — it’s something we choose to practice.”
Share your favorite scintillating gems of wisdom by anyone, yourself included. Or share an acknowledgement or light bulb moment that changed you, and enhanced your outlook on life as well as your well-being. Vulnerability welcomed.Graphics courtesy of UselessGraphics.com