As many may have noticed, I’ve been away for a while and the hiatus was necessary. My brother was quite ill over the last two years and that played a major role in my sudden disappearance in the blogosphere and elsewhere.
Watching my brother come so close to death was difficult. He was suffering, and there was a feeling of helplessness. All I could do was be there for him. I did feel a bit overwhelmed and sometimes experienced short bouts of situational depression, but his illness wasn’t the only cause. Disengaging close to 2 years from social media, i.e., Facebook, where so much fear-based news flooded my feed, was necessary and beneficial.
With that said, I’m happy to announce that my brother is in remission. 🙂
During this dark period of uncertainty, I was mindful that this is reality. Hardships are a part of being alive. Death is a part of life. I didn’t say “if he dies, he’ll be with the Lord and I’ll see him again someday.”
I didn’t disconnect from reality in that respect as I don’t hold beliefs such as immortality and an afterlife.
However, I gained a new perspective during this time. I accepted my current situation (unrelated to my brother’s illness) and made peace with it.
Yesterday, I was doing my daily search for educational videos, when I ran across this one below. It’s newly released.
I’ve added a few excerpts, but I hope you’ll take the time to watch it, because it doesn’t just address the impact that death anxiety can have on behavior (or society), and cites eye-opening studies. Below is an excerpt.
“Life is a series of facts. Life is what it is. We’ve evolved a certain way. Reality is what it is. Our fear of death is probably the greatest influence in our behavior. Throughout history, we are the only animal that’s conscious of our mortality and it’s causing an incredible reaction.
We create an afterlife—a heaven . . . we have no confrontation with death, completely disconnected with it . . . and that controls everything about our behavior. So the ability to accept death and look it square in the eye—accept this is your reality—that you’re not going to live forever—is very liberating.
Everyone you love is going to die.
The perfect partner doesn’t exist.
Everything ends. That’s what gives life meaning.
Be romantic about the small things.
Be a realist about the big things.
Excuse the click-baitish title of the video. The content was fairly well done and informative, IMO.